Phyllis Alberta Lorraine Monke
December 28, 2019
Our family lost a wonderful mother, grandmother, aunt and sister today. Phyllis Alberta Lorraine Monke died December 28, 2019. She created warmth, comfort and love throughout her life. We loved her dearly and she will be greatly missed.
Phyllis was born September 25, 1921 in Wessington Springs, South Dakota, the daughter of Albert and Nettie Ray Kurtz, the youngest of five children. She moved with her family to the Kingsley, Iowa area in 1927, attended country school northwest of Kingsley and graduated from Kingsley High School in 1939.
On January 1, 1945, Phyllis and Melvin Monke were united in marriage at Kinglsey, Iowa. What followed was 63 years of work, love, children (Judy and Lowell), church, family get-togethers and delicious casseroles, pies and cakes. They lived on a farm near Pierson, Iowa for 32 years. Later, Phyllis was manager of Graham’s Variety Store in Kingsley for several years. They retired and moved to Kingsley in 1981. Melvin died in 2008.
Phyllis was a lifelong member of the Church of the Brethren. She cherished her family and found great pleasure in family gatherings. She enjoyed music, playing pitch and canasta, gardening, crocheting and crossword puzzles. Phyllis will be remembered as an excellent homemaker, cook and baker. She was thoughtful, kind and always interested in the latest news of family and friends.
Survivors include her daughter, Judy (Les) Watts of Des Moines, IA; son, Lowell (Candy) Monke of Colorado; grandchildren, Benjamin and Mitchell Monke, JoEllen Watts, Jackie Watts, Bill Schaefer, and Bradley (Mary) Watts; great-grandchildren, Maria (Nick), Michael (Emma), Katherine (Clint), Madeleine and Amelia; and several nieces and nephews.
She was preceded in death by her parents; her husband, Melvin; brothers, Laverne and Emery (Muriel) Kurtz; sisters, Estelle (Francis) Hendricks, Gladys (Harold) Graham; sister-in-law, Mildred Kurtz; and several nephews.
Phyllis met the challenges of aging and loss in later life with courage, grace and a positive attitude. She remained in good health into her nineties. Then as her body slowed, she still showed the need to give and be of use to others. Residents at Bickford Cottages Assisted Living would come to her for her kindness and help, a hug, kiss on the cheek or reassuring word. She will be missed by all who were lucky enough to know her.
Memorials may be directed to Heifer International at www.heifer.org. Condolences may be expressed at www.HamiltonsFuneralHome.com.
Brenda Olsen
01/12/2020
Judy, Lowell, and families: I am so sorry for your loss. I've known Phyllis my whole life. She is such a beautiful person, inside and out. Mom, Dad, and your parents ate out practically every Saturday night. Mom and Dad thought the world of your parents. I have so many wonderful memories of your mom. She is and always will be a wonderful woman. May God comfort you. Love to you. Brenda
Janelle Swanberg
01/11/2020
Condolences to you all at this hard time. She was the embodiment of kindness and grace. May your wonderful memories sustain you.
Rich Treptow
01/06/2020
Judy and family -- I am so sorry for your loss, but I am happy it appears she did not suffer long. Your mom's life was "a life well-lived"-- full of the really important stuff of life--love of family and friends and life's simple pleasures of spending quality time interacting with others. It is a reminder of what too many of us have forgotten. I'm so happy you had so many good years with your mom.
Rich
Nina Hoffert
01/04/2020
Dear Judy, Sending our love and prayers to you and your family on the loss of your mother.
Nina and Tim Hoffert
Shennon Herbold
01/04/2020
Sorry to read of your mother's passing. I have good memories of Grandpa and Grandma Herbold's group of friends. Phyllis was the last of the pitch playing group that included my grand parents, the Grahams, Bakkens and Monkes. God bless them all. --Shennon
Bob & Norma Blair
01/01/2020
Phyllis and Melvin were vital, exemplary members of the Kingsley Church of the Brethren, and after the merger, the Brethren-UCC. They remained dependably present, lovingly concerned, and always humble in their worship and service to God. We miss their gentle, peaceful ways. May God richly bless Judy and Les, Lowell and Candy, and their good families with Christ's great consolation and hope. With love and prayers, Bob & Norma Blair
Lana (Bakken) Brownlee
01/01/2020
Dear Judy and Lowell,
Saw your mother's obituary in the paper this morning. She was a wonderful, loving person and I am sure that you will miss her very much. Thinking of you.