Nina Marie Becker
February 11, 2012
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No formal obituary planned
www.HamiltonsFuneralHome.com
February 11, 2012
No formal obituary planned
www.HamiltonsFuneralHome.com
Rick Arrowood
02/27/2012
(I'm Chantelle & Nina's dad, Hanna's former husband)
Psalm 90:12 (NIV) says:
Teach us to number our days,
that we may gain a heart of wisdom.
We dont really get to say anything to Nina here shes gone, and shes not reading this. We only get to speak to each other now. So in light of Psalms and from the perspective of someone once inside and now outside the family:
Each of you is a unique and valuable expression of the creative heart of God. All the good and the bad together has made you into an unduplicatable masterpiece. I will not get the chance now to thank Nina for teaching me the value of cornbread stuffing, or to tell her how amazed I was at her tenacity and strength. I also missed the opportunity to point out her faults and how she had hurt my family but really do you think she didnt know? We all put up bravado, but in the end its more about what we feel about ourselves than what others feel about us. My guess is that she was hiding herself more than locking us out. I am personally sorry I didnt push through that.
What I have seen is a family full of hard working, amazing people. I wish you could see yourselves that wayand see each other that wayand not miss your chances with each other now. I dont think you should be hypocritical, because I know there has been hurt, and lets be real, honesty, sometimes brutal, is a deep family trait. And a good one. Im just saying look for the best in each other and respond to that. Because theres a lot good to see, and what you look for is what you find.
That would be my prayer that the family of Nina Marie would find in her passing the resolve to do that.
And my deepest wish is that Nina is now talking with Jesus and Dale Earnhardt.
Shelly
02/26/2012
I am truly sorry for the loss of your mother, Johanna and Tony, and your sister, Sherry. I only have good memories of Nina while I was growing up. She always welcomed me in to your home, as you were welcome in ours. She taught me how to iron shirts, she made homemade egg noodles, I used her old sewing machine one year, and we played a lot of cards together; and I thank God for these kindnesses shown to me. As a child and even in my own teen years and early adulthood I was not totally aware of the painful situation you all were in. The verse from Isaiah 53:3 has always been a comfort to me and I hope that you will be comforted by it as well: "He is despised and rejected by men, a Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.". Jesus does see and know about suffering, having experienced it Himself while on earth and is able to deliver us. We don't chose the day of our birth, what family or country we will be born into, what year, or our personality and circumstances in life. This thought helped me many years ago, after coming to faith in Jesus as my Savior, to accept who I was and who my mother and father were. You all are in our prayers.
Deanna and Tim
02/25/2012
May your next JOURNEY find you PEACE and HAPPINESS.Memories we will always have of you.
Hanna
02/24/2012
Well Mom, you finally got your wish. The only problem is that we are all still here, horrifically saddened over the fact that you could have found the life you wished for. The life that you wished for all those you loved and cared about. Instead, it seems that you were dealt pain that caused the kind of damage that you had no tools to deal with so that you could move forward with your life. "It was a different time". True, but to another extent, that was a cop out. One of the human traits you despised the most was hypocracy, therefore, I am apparently going to be the one to "break the ice" so to speak, so others can say what they really feel, rather than what they think people expect them to say at a time like this. And if this offends anyone's sensibilities, remember who talk me how to speak. Mom, I miss the idea of the relationship I wish we could have had. I was thoroughly convinced that I thought I had learned how NOT to raise my beautiful daughters, thanks to you, but yet I fight every day to stay connected to the people I love. Your life has ended as a warning. A wake up call. Especially to the women of our family. None of us strive to be alone and bitter and sad. But negative patterns are hard to break, especially when you don't really realize they exist. Thank you for wanting me, especially against my Farher's wishes, however, I am sorry for you that you couldn't hold on. To any of us. For those of us that are left here, our pain exists on different levels for different reasons. This is mine. I am 48 years old, and I am an orphan. Just as I am sure Rick and I will leave Chantelle and Nina at whatever point in time as we know it. Such is the circle of life. As damaged as it is , thank you for the heritage. Traditionally these web sites are a tribute to our dearly departed, but Mom would not have wanted a tribute. For what it is worth , she would have wanted honesty. That is the best tribute I can give her. Nina Marie Sublett Erickson Becker. Rest well.
Mary Elizabeth Ray-Berwald
02/16/2012
Aunt Nina,
I never had the pleasure of meeting you. I am Sherry Rose's youngest daughter, Mary Elizabeth. I am an adult now with kids of my own. Life is so precious and wonderful. I hope you lived a happy life. Please say "Hi" to my sister, Beth Ann, and Grandma and Grandpa and all the rest of our family on the other side with you now. They will take good care of you. I love you.
Love Your Niece,
Mary Elizabeth
John Sublett
02/14/2012
The storm has ended. Thank you. dear sister, for the sunshine we shared.
Christine Davis
02/14/2012
rest in peace sis
Sherry Ray
02/14/2012
Nina,
May you rest in peace. I know you are in a much better and happier place.
I really want to believe that Mom,Dad and Beth Ann are there with you and
welcomed you with open arms.
Love you and miss you Big Sister!
Love Sherry and Lonnie Ray and Family
Sherry Ray
02/14/2012
Nina,
May you rest in peace! I know in my heart that you are in a better
and happier place.
Wish we could have been closer. I remember the summers I spent with you.
You are still my Favorite OLDEST Sister.
Love you Sister!
Sherry Rose
David and Jolene Sublett
02/14/2012
Rest in peace sister.